"Remember when we were in fear for our lives but it wasn't because of drive by shootings, drugs, gangs, etc. Our parents and grandparents were a much bigger threat!!!!!!!!!!!" This is a quote by Shau Marie, a woman from Wisconsin talking about the way discipline has changed over the years. She was more afraid of what her parents would do you her than being sent to her principle's office. Strict discipline is a thing of the past. Things have changed since then. Some people would say for the better, but I would say for the worse. .
Ask anyone on the street if the modern day family has changed and most of the people asked would say yes. The family has changed and one of the main changes is discipline. It has gone from very strong and strict to almost non-existent. We need to incorporate some of the strict old-fashioned upbringing and discipline used in the past with the new ideas of today. Some of the most important and basic aspects of the discipline of the past were fear and respect. If we establish these same values in the children of today they will in return show respect and appreciation to those around them.
Fear was one of the ways to discipline children in the past. Fear is defined as "a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid." It is a known a fact that a person who thinks him/her is in danger that they will do anything to get out of it. One of the ways that a parent or teacher would install this fear is by threatening the child. A threat could be as simple as a verbal warning or as harsh as a belt or switch being shown. .
A mild way of carry out this type of discipline would be a simple verbal warning or "guilt trip". They can both cause remorse and fear when done sparingly. If used often, they tend to loose their effect. An example of both of these would be "If you don't clean your room we wont go swimming" and "If you don't clean up this room, social services will come and take you away.
