Being 6 feet tall and 245 pounds, I was really tiny next to this great giant. .
As soon as our tutoring sessions began he made it very clear that I was only there as a guide, and someone who would help him get good study habits since it was his first semester back in college since he graduated 6 years ago. When he did need help on an essay or on an algebra problem he would not ask for help, but rather argue for it. This in a way helped him maintain the control of most of our sessions, which went to show that although he was not sure of his abilities in school, he looked like he did. If I altered his essay in a constructive way, he would question it and alter it again a similar way like mine but not my suggestion. In the math problems he would argue relentlessly although he knew my answer was right and his was wrong because the book said so. His chauvinistic personality after a while was quite entertaining, and the more I got to know him the more his act would slip a little. If I would say an inspirational quote to get him to focus on school like "you need to put your needs before your wants-, he would use it while his friends came over and joined us for pizza. .
All of his close friends thought that this giant of a young man was very wise and smart, yet he was full of insecurities and those were the main reasons he did not enroll in school immediately after high school. He boasted that college to him would be a breeze to everyone, yet in a heart-to-heart conversation with me he confided that he doubted himself so much that he only enrolled for 2 classes and got a tutor just to prove to everyone that he could do it. Everyone who knew him thought that the reason he never went to college was because he loved the party life, when in reality it was a scene from his great play.
Theory .
In a famous theory formulated by Erving Goffman known as the Dramaturgy Theory, it was hypothesized that people are constantly presenting themselves according to how they want in everyday life situations.