The householder, or head of the family was in most cases a male. His household was considered a "single man's household." .
A single man's household would consist of the head of the family (householder) and the dependants, who were mostly servants. There would also be a set role for a female housekeeper. A wife, sister, or any other woman who is "invested with the office of housekeeping" would usually fill this position. Tadmor then explains the method of a household-family framework, and how its boundaries are not set on blood or marriage, but on authority and household management. The framework is both permeable and flexible. This basically means that it can become larger to include many members, or become smaller when ones leave. Therefore, whether the household-family framework "takes one into the family" or loses a member, the basic framework is not corrupted from its original form.
When a person would come to live in the household, he or she would quickly be referred to as being among "the family at home." Upon arrival, he or she would sign an agreement that would set the terms for his or her family inclusion. Tadmor explains this as a "contractual relationship." There were several different kinds of contractual relationships; the first was marriage. The contract for marriage was life-long, and formal, and for the most part indissoluble. The apprentice's contract was formal as well, but not life-long in any sense. Its duration was limited and it could easily be dissolved. Last of all, the boarding agreement or service contract were made orally for the most part, and were not binding under any circumstance. Children did not initially have a contractual relationship to the household-family. Since the offer had been made and accepted, the household-family's relationship was more so an agreement.
Family members were not required to be emotionally attached to one another.