Clarissa Dalloway is a complex character that is perceived differently by many readers. Her interactions with people throughout the book reveal many things about her personality, but it is hard to decipher her true intentions; is she a deep, thoughtful woman, or a shallow, upper-class snob? Her deep relationship was more than just friendship with Sally Seton; however, her harsh feelings towards other characters like Miss Kilman, Lady Bruton and Ellie Henderson show a shallow side of Clarissa. .
Sally Seton was the most influential character in the book for Clarissa. In her younger years she was a free spirit, Clarissa admired this and wished she could be as sure of herself as Sally was. When she appears at Clarissa's party, it is almost a disappointment because she has become the exact opposite of what she was, and has conformed to the ways of a traditional female of that time. .
Sally affected Clarissa's life in many ways, but mostly in the physical sense. She made Clarissa see a side of herself that she may have never experienced, her sexuality. For them to marry would be out of the question, but Woolf showed how their relationship was more intimate than merely friends. "Then came the most exquisite moment of her whole life passing a stone urn with flowers in it. Sally stopped; picked a flower; kissed her on the lips. The whole world might have turned upside down! The others disappeared; there she was alone with Sally (Woolf, 35). To describe this as the most exquisite moment of her life is the answer to why she never felt that kind of satisfaction with Richard.
Clarissa is not a lesbian, but clearly her marriage to Richard is merely for convenience, and her need and want to conform to the strict society. Maybe she could have experienced the same kind of happiness with Peter Walsh. They shared a stronger emotional bond, but Peter was seen as a failure. She gave up happiness so she could fit in with the ways of the upper class.