Not all people plan to marry in their lifetime, but if they do, they certainly want to marry someone they can trust and depend on. Marriage is a bond; a bond that connects two people together as one and lasts a long time if the bond is healthy. In Asian culture, marriage is a very serious and important event. In contrast to Western culture, in which people doesnt see marriage as important as Asians do, marriage is just a form of representing their relationships, but Asians see marriage as one of the most important events in life. Since marriage is such an important and vital event, it should not be arranged. It should be based on the free will of a couple that are deeply in love with each other because marriage bonds two people with different thoughts, backgrounds, and personalities together.
Two people marrying each other before knowing anything about each other is ridiculous. Imagine two people marrying each other all of the sudden, without even talking to each other first; and they are already destined to marry each other. The bond does not preexist prior to marriage, but is built after the marriage. The unknown bond between the couple is unpredictable. It may end up being a strong bond that holds those two together, but it may also become a weak bond, that holds those two together with a loose end. But finding two people that click with each other is already very hard; the chance of finding it among arranged marriage is even harder. .
Arranged marriage sometimes is just crucial for in the married couple. Because the marriage is arranged, their love does not preexist before the relationship. Love should be the most important thing in marriage. If the marriage is not initiated with love, but with financial or political purposes, it will not make the best out of the marriage. Indeed, it may bond two people eventually, but in most cases, it destroys a woman's life. In the movie "Monsoon Wedding," the woman that is arranged to marry, already has a lover.
