He made me feel very uncomfortable because I felt like he was not interested in anything I had to say. By the middle of the dinner I was so annoyed and frustrated that I could not get even one word in that I completely stopped listening to him. This baffled me because he was so into everything he was saying, and he thought I was so interested. Little did he know that he was totally turning me off from himself and making me feel very uncomfortable and bored. He was so oblivious to the fact that he was holding a one sided conversation and I was not communicating back. From this night I realized that men talk so much about themselves and they always have to have total control of the conversation. .
My father, on the other hand, begged to differ with my opinion about men and their conversation patterns and the reasoning towards these patterns. He said that from his vast dating experience and dialogues with male friends, he believed the conversation hog behavior could be more of an issue of lack of self-assurance and fear of rejection. He thinks the guy talks a lot about himself because he may lack confidence and his sense of self-identity. He may fear you will reject him, unless he "tells" you everything there is to know about him. He may be looking to tell everything about him so that you will find that one quality that makes him likeable. After hearing my fathers opinion on this subject it did make me understand a little more where this comes from and why most men tend to dominate the conversation. .
While the man is being the conversation hog, the woman sits there and listens passively not trying to intrude. This whole situation puts the male in the superior position and the woman in the inferior position. Most women are too passive to interrupt a man and try to say what she wants to say. When I talk to men I find myself talking very fast and trying to hurry with what I have to say so I do not bore them.
