Isolated within the confines of our own perceptions and the environment that supports them, it would be easy to judge and condemn the lifestyle of such a family as wrong. However, we must remember that this is only a perception, no matter what our personal feelings tell us about violence, alcohol and dysfunction, there must be many strengths and characteristics within this family that are very functional indeed. First of all, the relationship between Beth and Jake has lasted eighteen years and has produced five wonderful offspring. .
There is "Nig" the oldest boy (in his late teens), Grace, a young teenage girl about thirteen, "Boog" (Mark) about a year younger, and two small children (boy and girl) about five and six. There is little doubt during the first half of the story that there is much genuine love and sexual attraction between the parents. They enjoy drinking, socializing and best of all singing together. They sing beautifully and its magic seems to strengthen the bond of love that they share. All of the family members seem to posses an inspiring determination to survive and stay strong in spite of the depressing surroundings. Beth is a powerhouse of resources, strength and determination.
The relationship between mother and children is loving and strong. With the father, it is another matter altogether. Jake is lost in a haze of alcoholism and extreme violence. The older progeny seem to despise him, and his connection to them is distanced. These surroundings, although ghetto-like and rather squalid, are the norm for tens of thousands of Maori people. This is paralleled in our own culture for millions, who for one reason or another are marginalized from the mainstream classes which include aspects of wealth and security. In spite of the appearance of what we determine is squalor, for this family it is home - the only one they know. Their surroundings provide the shelter, warmth, food and place to live, socialize and grow that all people need.
