Allocentrism is also one of the aspects of my culture; values, traditions, conformity and benevolence are one of the ingredients that flavor the Moroccan cultural pot. In my interview with the Dutch girl, let's call her Anita for the sake of anonymity, and which is engaged in an inter cultural relationship since she has a Moroccan boy friend, the striking observation is her ignorance of the Moroccan culture. The existence of Moroccan in the Dutch society remotes to 1960`s. Still, she knows almost nothing about he Moroccan culture. And I do believe that she epitomizes her Dutch fellows. The fact of being involved in an inter-ethnic relationship is a vivid example of her individualistic nature because her parents do not bless her decision. Furthermore, she adopted an assimiltionist discourse towards any foreign culture. She said: " when in the Netherlands do as Dutch". The typical integrated Moroccan according to her is someone who indulged and adopted the way of life of Dutch people. And for the question of the failure of the Dutch policy of integration, she said that it is the minority groups who are not outgoing and they prefer to keep themselves within their own groups. This what I would name blaming the victims. It is not possible for everyone to assimilate into the Netherlands in the same way. The metaphor of the melting pot does not fit with the Dutch context. We need a different metaphor, one that reflects the racial, ethnic, and cultural diversity that truly exists in the Netherlands. Probably the term 'salad' in which each group retains its flavor and yet contributes to the whole (Judith N.Martin & T.K.Nakaya, 1998). And as I have expected, her image of the Islam is the one hold by the majority of westerns. She thinks that it is main cause of the backwardness of the Arabic world and the only solution lies on a secular model. According to her, religion is a private matter. However, religion in the Moroccan culture is a way of life.
