"What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility." Certainly, this is the basic truth that governs a happy married life. A probe into the issue will certainly enlighten one on the various causes why people end up with failed relationships. For a better understanding a study made on the differences between people in happy marriages and those in troubled marriages, will make the answer obvious. The main causes for broken married life are the differences in opinion, unable to be happy with the partner for various reasons and the dwindling of passion for your partner over the years. The time is not over and you do not have to give up your married life, instead be ready to accept a change. It need not be a change from either sides but even one of the couples can affect a great change and have a relationship of their dreams.
To begin with, often the main cause that leads the happiness of an ideal married life is the differences in opinion that exists between couples. The failure to agree with your partner in many things and ideas, stirs up trouble between you and your mate. It is necessary that you try to agree with what your partner feels or thinks rather than to contradict. Avoid trying to vindicate yourself rather agree with your partner in his/her thoughts and actions and try to sound sincere to the other. It is good to understand that contradicting or trying to assert one's points is a waste of time. It is best to get around matters than aggravating the relationship by trying to prove that you are right. Being a team is much preferred to feeling like opposites in a married life. The more you try to argue for your way you are fostering the negativism in your partner by your attitude of needing and pressuring and whining and complaining. It is quite amazing to discover that a couple who has been confronting each other for many years, a deep analysis of their relationship revealed the fact that it was the consequence of each one trying to dominate the other in their way of thinking and wished that what they felt and did was right and expected the partner to simply agree with what he / she had felt.
