Consequently, over time I began to almost ignore his thoughts and feelings and just assume that the problem was something personal. It was almost as if I had lost my sense of social intelligence with him because I would just categorize certain actions into what I thought was the appropriate response to the situation. If he was frustrated and not very interactive with me then I assumed it was because he had a bad day at work. While this was mostly the case there were key instances that there was something deeper going on, such as a big project due or a test coming up. On account that this mood for example was so frequent I tended not to think that these actions could stray from my designated reason for them. Social media was another way that I could take a step back from the immediate situation and gain almost an outsider's perspective. I could then reflect on the situation and our emotions and see how to really deal with the situation. I had to become sensitive to all the situations and realize not only that every situation was not exactly the same, but his feelings or state should not affect my own. .
Literature much like social media can give us an insight on not only other peoples situations but how they would use their social intelligence in that situation. John Green is the author of a popular novel The Fault in Our Stars, in which it is perceived that one of the main characters has terminal cancer. In the novel Hazel has brain cancer and has accepted that death is inevitable, but she does not use this as a way to be excused from social norms. She does choose carefully who she interacts with, but even then she is well aware of how people can react to her and her situation. Hazel demonstrates a high level of social intelligence because she has mastered the three main aspects, emotional, personal and social intelligence. Hazel thinks that her parents life revolves around her, since she heard her mother say once "I wont be a mom anymore" as she sobbed to her father one time.
