In many occurrences, parents take all the blame or credit for everything that their children have become. After they see their child is not doing well, they always come up with the question, "What have we done wrong?". After reading "Accepting That Good Parents May Plant Bad Seeds" I can conclude that many parents have a similar mindset that if their child is not doing well it is because they are not doing a good job as parents. The era of blaming themselves and saying "there are no bad children, only bad parents" is gone. Many parents today, go to psychiatrists because they do not know what is wrong with their child, immediately thinking that they have some kind of illness or need the help of a specialist.
In the article "Accepting That Good Parents May Plant Bad Seeds" the author Richard Friedman begins by introducing one his clients. His client doesn't know what is wrong with her child, a 17 year old boy who seems to always be mean and unsympathetic to everyone else. Another client of his explained how their 35 year old son was just so rude, and uncaring. He never responded to their emails, texts and calls even when his mom was ill in the hospital. After all, he states how the children who are not loving and caring is not due to parental failure or because of the environment of where they live in, but because of the everyday character traits.
First of all I believe that some children's behaviors do reflect on their parents, on the way they are treated and the way they have been raised. In many occasions I have seen how parents do not care about their children, and let them do whatever they want, and it is even worse if the environment where they are living in is not the best. Parents want to react and help their kids when it is too late for them to change. On the other hand, I have also seen parents who give their child everything they need, and most importantly they are always there giving them love, but they still have different characteristics that makes them seem mentally ill and do not appreciate what they have.
