Relationships with the opposite sex are complex, and very unique. In this paper I hope to cover the main areas of this complex subject. I will address the stages of dating, the four types of chemistry between dating partners, unhealthy chemistry in women, various types of bad relationships, commitment, engagement and marriage. .
I will begin with the most natural start of male/female relationships, dating. John Gray PH.D., author of Mars &Venus on a Date, has established five(5) stages of dating. The five stages are attraction, uncertainty, commitment, intimacy, and engagement. In Stage one (1) you should make sure, you get the opportunity to express your attraction and get to know a potential partner. Stage two (2) shifts from attraction to feeling uncertain that they are right for you. You must recognize this feeling as normal and not to be swayed by it. Stage three (3) is the stage at which exclusively dating is implemented. Danger, in this stage, you may become too comfortable and stop doing the little things that make your partner feel special. Stage four (4) consists of real intimacy, and stage five (5) is that of the celebration of love. Many couples make the mistake of rushing into getting married. It is vital to take time to gather positive experiences of sharing together and resolving disagreements and disappointments before the big challenge of being married, moving in together and having a family. Moving through the five stages of dating creates the right conditions for you to develop the ability to "just know- when the right person comes along. It also allows you to "just know- when you are with the wrong person. [pg17a].
It is your life and you are responsible for it. Be clear with yourself about what kind of life you ideally want based upon your needs and values and be active in trying to achieve it. Also know what personality characteristics and values you want your partner to have.
