Let your significant other be a little bit free, but with trust, and you will get better results. One can easily set aside from him/her and give such little love and affection; not showing them how much they mean to each other. As she writes "This process must, of necessity, cause some overt and covert distrust of the partner's love, fidelity, sincerity, or kindness. " Being in a relationship must be overt and not covert. You wouldn't want to keep secrets from your partner because that just leads you to a big communication problem. She explains to us that "we are more familiar with the feeling of distrust " because more people have been hurt than happy. Horney will state that getting therapy is the best way to fix any problem you may have throughout your relations with anybody. .
Horney briefly talks about how childhood conflicts can affect ones relationship to the opposite sex later in life. I believe that her point of view on childhood conflicts re 100% agreeable and that it has a big impact towards the relationship of the opposite sex. An example Horney gives us is "The little girl who was badly hurt through some great disappointment by her father, will transform her innate instinctual wish to receive from the man into a vindictive one of taking from him by force. " The example Horney gave us explains how when the girl was growing up, her father sexually or physically abused her. Someone so young who grew up not knowing that what her father was doing was wrong, usually grows up scared and having lack of trust with the opposite sex. It is wrong for a father to do such a thing to their little girls- in fact the father is the first man your daughter will love and look up to in what a man is supposed to be. The way you treat your wife is the way she will think every man will treat their wife. Horney also states that "she will imagine that every male merely intends to exploit her, that he wants from her only sexual satisfaction, after which he will discard her.
