Once a woman, base on the first stanza, became a wife and put an end to "That other state," which could be echoed back from the second stanza as "the Girl's life," then something else, which is more than a conventional woman, will be raised from the woman as a wife. It could be understood as heterosexual privilege achievement which makes the married woman more "manly", in a paradoxical way, than the girls in the poet's nonverbal statements. Those girls, in essence, are feminine. On the other hand Dickinson expresses the inferiority due to the social pressure of being a single woman and her unwillingness of becoming a wife also. She is fully understands the merits and demerits of being a married woman and a single lady. However, most of the women have no choice, the only occupation of a woman to go out of girlhood was "wife", of course, it comes with regret and bitterness, but, at some rate, the bitterness is worthwhile since no woman really wants to be identified as a spinster or willing to adopt the title. Curiously, Czar is a male with great power, since a wife could be likened to Czar, then there must be something other than soft eclipse( line 6, she uses as a representation of marriage). .
The gender role of a woman in the marriage could be happy and heavenly, yet it is ironic in Dickinson's eye. In the second stanza, she made a comparison between the life as a single woman and that of a married woman. She uses "soft eclipse" as a representation of marriage and uses "Heaven" as a comparison to "Earth" in the girl's life. She sees the progress of the change from a willful girl to a married wife, who is in "the soft eclipse". Being a girl of willfulness was full of pain, as Dickinson noticed, then, naturally, she treats marriage as a shelter keeps her away from pain. We can also see this point in the heaven-earth comparison, she points out that the life of being single is harsh, from the point of view of whom was married, which is "folks in Heaven - now"(line 8), and a life of a married woman like heaven.
