However, when my grandma and my uncle jumped in to try and change the subject, I was completely fine with it, I was ready to move on, and I thought she was to, but then after a second she turned to me and said, "Ya know, if I didn't care about you I wouldn't have said a damn thing! So stick that in your little pipe and smoke it!" At that point, I lost it and I screamed, "Jeez! What is your problem?" and she said "You"re my problem!" and I yelled "Good!" and I walked out the door, slamming it behind me! Now, not only was I upset with Jessica, but I was in trouble with my mother because she thought the way I reacted was rude and disrespectful. .
I am a very strong willed person, and when someone is treating me in a way that I don't agree with, I stand up for myself, however sometimes I don't exactly go about it the right way. I tend to get an attitude and say whatever pops into my head whether it be appropriate or not. When I am upset I am definitely a "J" I judge people and I jump to conclusions a lot. At the moment I really don't care what the other person think, I just want to say what I think and get out of there. So I am defiantly not a Passive person, while I am angry, I just want to deal with what I am feeling at the moment, and not what has happened in the past, I also rarely consider the consequences of what I say. After I have had a few minutes to think about what happened I turn into a "P" and I try and decide what the other person was trying to tell me. I also turn into an "N" because I then try and think about all the aspects, like what lead up to it, and what is going to happen because of it. My aunt is a lot like me when she is angry, and I think that is part of the reason we had such a problem with something so small. .
The communication in this situation was faulty, because Jessica assumed that I knew she meant the SUV was the problem and not me as a driver. I assumed that she was calling me a bad driver, and that she didn't trust me.
