Hamlet's actions toward women come from what he sees in them and how he his treated by them himself. Since his experiences with women have not been the best it just makes things worse. He has only had two women who had played a role in his life so he bases his entire thought on women on these two characters, Gertrude and Ophelia. This gives him this unlikeable flaw that is there but is not his fault. He is a grown man with the sense of a 2nd grader's immaturity, that girls are deceitful and in the 2nd graders terms "the girls have coodies." This flaw is understandable because in a way Getrude betrayed him by marrying Cladius and Ophelia lied to him making both women culprits. .
The problem with this situation of judging Hamlet's actions toward women is the facts are very confusing. Sure you can take the other side, that Gertrude had to move on and forget Lord Hamlet to prevent or avoid the pain. In a way though that would be unjust. You still have to take into consideration the fact she got married to months after the death of the King. Maybe she needed a leader by her side because Fortinbras was still upset and might attack but she could have appointed someone in charge of taking care of that kind of stuff. Still early in the book it shows that Hamlet was upset about his father's death and the only ones who would listen to him was Horatio. Getrude did not even consider sitting down with her son to talk about his Father's death. Hamlet upset about this, as referred to on page 33 "Thrift, thrift, Horatio. The Funeral baked meats did coldly furnish forth the marriage tables. Would I had met my dearest foe in heaven or I had seen that day, Horatio! My father-methinks I see my father."-Hamlet. So here in the second scene of the book you see his hostility toward women. In this case his mother. .
The situation with Ophelia is slightly different but more or less the same. The fact that with Polonius thought this relationship was based on lust started this entire thing.
