People are often asked what has shaped them, how they were made into the person they are today. I know I can't even count how many times I have been asked that question, or even just thought about it. What in my life made me the person I am? Whether it's good or bad, there is always something: a person, a thing, an event. While there is not one definitive moment that made my identity obvious to me, there are specific moments that stand out that shaped me into the person I am. The one I think of first is my parents" divorce. Although most people would say this is a bad thing to think of, and, in some ways it is, a lot of good came out of it.
I remember they used to fight a lot, although now it's more vague, I can still hear them yelling the way they used to when I think about it. In the beginning, their fights were not bad, and I was never really there to hear them. I was an adventurous girl always outside, climbing the enormous oak trees in front of our little house or playing with insects and other small animals I could catch. I usually would come in covered in dirt with a smile on my face and they would forget they had been fighting. A look of happiness would overcome my mother's face and she would whisk me away to the bath to listen attentively to my daily adventures. I was too young to understand the severity of their arguments when I was younger, but when they got more serious my mother was always honest with me. "Why do you and daddy fight all the time?" I would inquisitively say. I was never scared to ask her, and I knew she would always tell me the truth.
"Daddy and I aren't getting along as well as we used to sweetie, but you know it has nothing to do with you and your sister. We both still love you." she would reply.
I despised to see them fight, so when my mom told me they were getting divorced, I understood. She had been so honest with me and so it seemed like the right thing for them to do.
Types of Divorce The emotional divorce. ... The legal divorce. ... Such attorneys may be found in your own church, through the recommendation of other clergy in your community, or through a local Christian counselor. ... Christian educators must be alerted to the pain through which their young students might be going. ... The personal identity divorce. ...
While literary theory may seem divorced from reality, I believe it can illuminate our tangible struggles with identity. Through my major work, I wish to demonstrate the value of literary theory in articulating this postmodern phenomenon. ... I find I can best communicate my concept through a fragmented narrative comprised within the contexts of modernism and postmodernism. ... Alternatively in my second narrative, I will externalize the conflict of an elderly professor's attempt to clarify her identity in a period that entailed the subversion of absolutes through first person narrati...
Anxiety is also a common emotion that a person experiences when goes through a divorce. ... Divorce can be one of the hardest transitions a person can go through. ... Another issue that divorcing people may go through is an identity crisis. ... Divorce is a rough thing to go through for a lot of people. ... Identity crisis happens often when going through a divorce. ...
Fernchild states that children are not emotionally mature when parents are going through a divorce. ... During the first stage of infancy through preschool, a child is able to sense anger and tension even though they may not fully grasp what is going on when parents divorce. ... During this stage, an older adolescent is often struggling with their own identity, working to discover who they are and where they belong. ... When adolescents do not develop a clear path of identity, they often find ways to get into trouble. ... This is seen in both intact and divorced families. ...
In fact between 1960 and 1980 the rate of divorce surged nearly 250% ("Divorce... 2). ... That person usually will go through a lot of stress trying to maintain an adequate household income. ... Lindsay states, "Each partner is developing his own identity and going in a different direction. ... Another quite serious cause of divorce is the divorce laws themselves. Evidence has been accumulating that no fault divorce laws further accelerated the pace of divorce ("Divorce- 4). ...
Maalouf states, "I want to emphasize: through each one of my affiliations, taken separately, I possess a certain kinship with a large number of my fellow human beings; but because of all these allegiances, taken together, I possess my own identity, completely different from any other" (Maalouf, 154). ... This aspect focuses on the way identity can change through time, and on the choice of the individual in forming identity. ... Similarly, Ahmed's aunt Aida commits suicide when her family will not allow the girl to divorce out of an unbearable marriage. ... She drastically changes her ...
Through topics, such as how society views women's identities, the life of a married woman, and the way to freedom. ... This use of identity serves to strengthen the theme that Mrs. ... This gets the reader thinking that she is just with him because divorce is out of the question. ... Therefore, her entire identity seems tied to her marriage. ... We see through these stories how women base their identities on their marriage roles, even if they are unhappy ones. ...
Her mother divorced her father when she was 4 years old and she resents her mother's decision to break her family up. ... Janice knew that her mother divorced her father because of infidelity in their relationship and seeing her mother cry affected her much more than she ever realized. ... At home her father constantly told me I was fat and would have to be pushed through the door by the time I was 18. ... Application of Theory Janice's life provides insight of her identity development process and her journey in the development of a positive racial identity. ... According to Erikson...
They also distinguish the situation as being really severe; hence they seem to go through a lot of distress. ... Because gender identity is usually developed by age 3, the effects of the father being absent on gender appropriate behavior may be most evident among boys who are very young (ages 5 and under). Custodial parents go through trauma as well. ... Thus, not only children go through the pains but also the individuals involved as well as other family members. ... Children who go through a divorce often show signs of acting out and disobedient behavior, which leads to declines in the so...
