It will be a cold day in a very hot place, before the day comes, that every women accepts her true place next to a man. What their true place is may be unknown; however in Boys and Girls the young female narrator has a set role. Which is a motherly role, but to her this is unacceptable and she hesitates throughout the story to takes sides with her own mother. Instead she is sided with only her self, do to all of her family waiting for her to give up the tom boy phase. Yet the young narrator can not be kept down and she does all that's possible to ensure a spot under her fathers command. Then the unexpected occurs and she disobeys her father for the womanly instinct that is built up inside her. Simply proving that regardless of a women's hard work and pain, at the end of the day she is always just a girl.
There is nothing wrong with playing a mothers role, yet this young lady despises the simple thought of a women's work. She is dedicated to her fathers work and her mother's foot steps are far from being followed. To her a day in the yard carrying around a wheel barrel of water to feed the fox's beats a day in the kitchen by far. The mother pleads with the father to get her in the kitchen more but the plea fails because the young girl wants no parts of peeling onions and making jams. Just the thought of weaving baskets in the summer heat gives her the feeling that the mother can't be trusted. So now she has to work harder than ever for the father because he is the deciding line between her working in the kitchen or outside in the yard.
It comes to point where the narrator feels as if she can only trust herself when it comes to her household. She knows everyone wants things to change but she is not ready to give up her job as her fathers understudy. Many times she has over heard talk about her ways, "Girls don't slam doors like that", "Girls keep there knees together when they sit".
