The article from "Love and Living," by Thomas Merton started off with a curious statement that love is not something that just happens to us, free of all reason, it is actually a "certain special way of being alive.".
Through the curvy roads of life that indeed have no straight path from A to B, the article declares that love is our destiny. People find meaning with others and not just alone in the meditations of the mind. Becoming real means letting go in a sense, and entering into a loving relationship with another human person or with God. (Merton, 27).
The power of love affects more than just our thinking and our behavior, but our entire life. It is what guides a personal revolution. It crafts new identity and new life. Yet, actually, people do not create philosophies of love and life in general on their own. Our ways of thinking and our attitudes toward ourselves as well as others are determined from the world around us; from T.V, magazines, movies, and books. Our environment preaches and teaches us a way of understanding love, and expectations that we should have for love and others. As a result, people tend to lose sight of what is important and begin to think of themselves in terms of objects for sale on the market place of love. The fact that we want to be wanted, and we want to attract consumers. Moreover, we want to enrich our own egos by profitable deals with other egos. (Merton, 27).
People associate love with luck, and hope that they will meet the person that will fulfill them, make them happy, and enhance their life. But, this "me" attitude that is rooted in selfish desire is exactly what lures people away from the true meaning of love. The commercialized idea of love, the love that is defined in terms of "me," is what diverts our attention more and more from the essentials to the accessories of love. .
The article claims that "anyone who regards love as a deal made on the basis of "needs" is in danger of falling into a purely quantitative ethic.