However, in traditional India, the woman is restricted in a patriarchal society as her existence is confined only to her relationships with the man; a daughter to her father, a sister to her brother, a wife to her husband and a mother to her son. The role of the mother in India is considered the ultimate and most important role of the Indian woman and barrenness is considered to be the greatest disaster that can exist for a woman. Boys are considered to be the center of the universe which explains the fact that a woman reaches ultimate fulfillment and becomes a real woman only when she gives birth to a boy. The birth of a girl is not viewed to be fulfilling as the girl is considered 'paraya dhan' that is she belongs to somebody else, to her husband. The birth of a girl is considered a headache, especially for the poor as a dowry needs to be amassed so the girl can be wedded off properly. .
Moreover, the Indian girl is still raised to believe submissiveness goes hand in glove with her sex. A daughter is to become a mother, and her upbringing is to prepare for that. On one side of the marriage feast her role is to submit to her parents; on the other to her husband.The Indian girl is also expected to fulfill the duties which are meant to be hers, such as cooking, washing.etc. As soon as they are able to carry a water pot or whisk out the insects, their days are ever longer successions of toil. Given the elaborate details that accompany so much of Indian taste, be it food or religious devotion, popular art or the convolutions of family filiality, the girl is trained to exactly adhere to minutia. She knows she had better learn well, for after the relatively forgiving apprenticeship under her mother, she will have to meet the exceedingly rigid, usually waspish, and all too often brutal, standards of a mother-in-law. Only after the children are raised and married off does a woman begin to enjoy the fruits of love " from the children, now parents themselves, who gratefully realize what she gave them, and from a husband whose years if not his attitudes force him into co-dependence as his body gets frail and tired.