What are my family values and how do I fit into my family? My name is Josh Thayer; I am the first born into my family and have one other brother, who is four years behind me. I grew up in a small town twenty miles away, in a small cluster of houses in what today is called a sub-division. In today's society my parents and what they believe might be considered "old school" beliefs and traditions. How am I supposed to act and what my roles in the family are, are just some of the things that will be talked about.
Time is very important to my family and particular my father. He would turn all the clocks five minutes ahead so that there was no way that you would be late. He believed that if you said a specific time it was your responsibility to make it there on time. My family perceives time as being very important in our lives. They don't live their lives by the minute, but are always looking a planning ahead.
My personal distance usually is determined by the person talking to me. If my parents or grandparents are talking to me usually they get right up to me and if someone that I don't know so well is talking I usually have an arm length bubble around. I would rather have someone stand back then to have them right in my face, which can be discomforting. Another space that is guaranteed to me is my room. That is considered to be my property and my escape from society to just gather my thoughts and relax. When you are younger boys and girls won't go near each other. The last thing that a boy wants to do when he is twelve is to dance with a girl. Then as boys and girls get up the space between boys and girls is drastically reduced until you can't get the two apart. .
When I was a little boy and I was getting ready for school, I didn't think about what anyone was going to think. When people get older and they are trying to fit in socially they start to revolve their clothes around what people think and what is considered to be "cool".