Many people find themselves right away and some can never find who they really are. When someone finds them self they find a place were they fit in among their peers and the rest of society. The search usually happens during someone's teenage years. How does someone go about finding him or herself? Through the research I have done, I have found no set pattern or no right way in going about the whole process. If a person does not find who they are they can be confused and lost for life. The narrator, in the story Lust, has found who she is but many circumstances have affected her on her journey. Why is this person confused or lost? It is because he/she is not really doing what their dreams tell them to do, but rather doing things just to please someone else or to please some other cultural standard. This is true in many cases with women who accept the male notion that bodies are sex objects. Through my research I have found that men and women try to live up to gender roles and issues of class, and that this process negatively effects everyone. .
In the storyLust? the narrator was never taught not to give into boys. She was actually encouraged that if she did what boys told her to do she would get what she wanted and be accepted. This was apparent when the narrator states,They held the door of the goat house and wouldn't let us out till we showed them our underpants.? This statement shows that she had to deal with male dominance starting at a young age. The narrator also found that if she would just give in to it she would be an easy way of being accepted. It seemed that all the men wanted was her body. The narrator tells how the men she was with ignored her and almost acted like they did not want to be seen with her. This shows how she might have been accepted, but no man was proud to be with her. .
While thinking of research only one book came to my mind that would show the exact opposite, How the Garcia Girls Lost Their Accents.