"The Bad Relationship: Why It Is Best To Leave -

All four also include frequent promises to change.
             So how do we distinguish between what is HEALTHY, UNHEALTHY, and ABUSIVE? Defined simply, a problem relationship is when the basic human needs of the individuals involved are not being met (remember love and respect are needs). For the record, love is about openness, caring, pleasure, commitment, respecting differences and compromising. It isn't about pain, violence, selfishness, dependency and expecting all your needs to be met, .
             THE CYCLE IN BAD RELATIONSHIPS.
             Bad relationships go through three phases, just like in the cycle of violence:.
             1) Tension-building phase: this is where you feel as if you are walking on eggshells. More and more arguments transpire over silly things; you feel worried and confused and just know a monstrous fight is around the corner. .
             2) The blow-up phase: either you or your partner is emotionally or physically abusive to the point of impact. You feel that this is it: the relationship is over; you can't and won't take anymore. You are pessimistic about your future together. .
             3) Honeymoon Phase: otherwise known as kiss and makeup. One partner or both apologizes and/or promises that the abuse will never happen again. And it is fine until the next time .
             Please note that every couple experiences ups and downs in their relationships. There are times when everything is wonderful, fun and romantic and there are other times when tension exists because of disagreement around an issue. However when a couple in a healthy relationship experience strain, they take time out to talk and resolve the situation in a way that is respectful to both.
             In an unhealthy relationship, escalating disputes result in unpretty situations. After the blow-up one partner might apologize for what happened and promise never to act that way again. The other partner wants to believe this and more often than not will welcome the partner back. However because apologies are ways of manipulating the victim into staying in the relationship and not sincere efforts to change, in time the tension will begin to grow and the cycle will repeat itself again.