The parties involved may also feel that the situation is too .
stressful or too difficult to face reality (Allison 25). It is believed that this unfocused .
state of mind is a normal part of denial in the grieving process (Berry 126). Another form .
of denial is fantasizing about the former love life or keeping the separation a secret from .
friends and family (Allison 127). This is due to a sense of failure and embarrassment .
over the disseverment of the marriage (Berry 127).
The majority of people involved in a divorce have a period of anger or rage (Berry .
31). It is believed that couples normally reach this stage after the break up (Berry 31). A .
person may feel betrayed and use anger to mask their fear and hurt (Allison 172). Also .
the individual may be angry over losing a comfortable home and children (Berry 31). .
Psychologists believe that a person must confront their anger and find a nondestructive .
manor to release it (Berry 31). They suggest taking up a sport or hobby, physical .
exercise or screaming while in solitude to be a safe option when releasing suppressed .
feelings (Allison 173).
Another feeling experienced during the course of a divorce is guilt. Guilt occurs when .
one blames themselves for all the problems within the marriage (Allison 27). Guilt can .
also make communication between the parties involved difficult because one individual .
takes over more than half of the responsibility for the failed relationship. This person .
may be passive and submissive to accusations (Allison 59). It is suggested that a person .
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look clearly at the aspects of the relationship to recognize that both parties caused the .
separation. This form of relieving guilt can be done by being honesty and fair when .
observing past marital problems (Allison 29).
Depression is considered to be another part of the necessary mourning process in .
divorce recovery (Berry 29). Symptoms of depression are sadness, rejection, guilt and .