1) Karl Menninger once wrote that listening is more important than talking: here are various ways we can listen to others, not all of which are helpful to effective communication such as styles of poor listening which impede effective communication. The Fake, The Dependent Listener, The Interrupter, The Self-Conscious Listener, and the Intellectual Listener.
The Faker is not really listening he/she is acting as if they"re listening; the faker does this to fool the talker into believing they have the full attention of the talker. While pretending to be listening they are thinking about something else or are so intent of a listener that they do not hear what is being said. For example a women's husband to be, called off the marriage because when she shared her medical problem with him, he smile and nodded his head, she knew a that moment he had not been listing. She began to ask about other conversations and found he knew nothing about what was said. He had been faking all along.
The Dependent Listener is a speaker pleaser. They are so worried about impressing the speaker that they are not listening and can't respond appropriately, and may agree excessively with what the speaker says. They believe doing this helps them stay in goodwill of the speaker. A women may not hear what her mate is saying when she is overly concerned with pleasing him, jeopardizing rather than strengthening the relationship by her behavior.
The Interrupter will not allow others to finish their thoughts. Perhaps fearing that they will forget something important they want to say, or feeling that it is necessary to respond to a point as soon as it is made. Or they are more concerned with their own thoughts and feeling than with those of others. They don't offer a listening ear. Interrupters leave no opportunity for another to talk out their feelings.
The Self-Conscious Listener, some people are concerned primarily with their own status in the eyes of others rather than with the ideas and feelings of the other.