If you had told me one year ago when my life was perfect that I would be divorced, become a single mother and have to start dating again, I would've re-thought the whole thing.
Even if I saw it coming, I found myself unprepared for the sudden impact of my divorce. Getting a divorce can feel a lot like having a giant wrecking ball slammed into my life. Things that I took for granted yesterday no longer apply to my life today. Everything is changing at a rapid pace. Many of my dreams and plans for the future, as well as my day-to-day existence, suddenly became unrecognizable bits and pieces. Things became stressful for me and I gained a lot more responsibilities. Not only was stress involved but also being divorced created a financial problem for me. I would sometimes feel angry and had to learn how to deal with it instead of acting on those feelings. Longing to be with someone to fulfill the emptiness I would sometime question myself did I make the right decision? I realize starting over could be a new beginning for me. But before I could move on I have to sort through the issues that were left from the divorce, choosing what to leave behind and what to keep. Since my ex-husband was a civilian and myself military I may consider marrying someone with the same occupation. By identifying what went wrong, what my part in it was and how I would like things to be different in the future, can better prepare me for similar situations in future relationships. It is important to take time to listen to yourself and see how you"re really feeling. And keep these things in mind: Treat yourself gently, don't make any big decisions, lean into the pain, cry when you want to and don't care what other people say or think, be very selfish and most of all love yourself no matter how hard that is.
Becoming a single parent, which can be difficult at times, was another result of being divorced.