How can we succeed in our marriage? Answering this question is quite difficult since we all know that nobody is perfect; every one of us has bad and good traits, which define our personality, and make us different from each other. But we still always looking for our marriage partner who should have the traits we consider as important. According to me, and after a long thinking, the most important characteristic I look for in my future wife, the one that could helps us and contributes to have a successful marriage, is honesty.
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Because it is rare nowadays, the trait of honesty is one of the most important characteristics in marriage. This trait gives to marriage a kind of equilibrium and stability usually missed and which provides the couple an entire trust in their relation. My own experiences have taught me that lying, (which means not telling the truth), is always an important source of problems, especially when the person discovers the lie and decides to not trust you anymore even if it concerns banal things. When parents who trust their child discover their son/daughter's detrayl, it has consequences on their relation, a relation that will never be the same with a constant doubting.
Honesty means also the ability to support his acts and to sometimes tell the one we have chosen for life bad news. By being honest, we show our maturity which reflects that we have principles in life. So this trait provides some kind of transparency between the partners" relationship, with no misunderstanding. In addition, it causes other qualities needed in a marriage partner, as doing realistic expectations, resolving conflicts effectively and serving each other. One situation that could illustrate this is the case of illness. Indeed, when one of the partners is deeply sick for example and he/she does not want to worry the other, this might .
creates problems. However, when this sick person trusts his/her partner and confesses what is happening, he/she will be supported in order to bear the problem.