Like it or not, you are obliged by the inherent force of your very Being to grow from darkness to light, from contraction to openness. You are obliged to love, to be free, and to be happy. You are obliged not because of some moral dictate, but because Being itself is loving, free, and happy. This is its nature, as everyone discovers when they allow themselves to relax into who they really are.
Since you are of the nature of Being, since you are yourself Divine Being, you are also inherently loving, free, and happy. However, we tend to deviate from our true nature, and so we suffer the temporary loss of our inherent disposition.
When we no longer feel happy, free, and loving, we begin to search. The direction in which we search--whether through greater power or creativity, more money, or better sex--is always a deviation from the direct realization of our true Being.
Whereas the Feminine tends to deviate by searching for more love, the Masculine tends to deviate by searching for more freedom, release, or even death-like states of tension-free stillness.
Many men, for example, experience orgasm as an approximation of this feeling of freedom, release, and tension-free stillness. Their feeling after orgasm is like a little death.
A very common deviation for men, therefore, is to become addicted to seeking orgasm. That is, rather than following their basic impulse all the way to the point of true freedom--which is called ego-death in many spiritual traditions--many men settle for the repeated little death of orgasm. Orgasm (or TV or beer) is their chosen method for being released from their constricted sense of self. They are not yet awakened to the absolute freedom of their true nature, relaxing deeply into the vast openness of their true Being. Instead, they repeat their habitual method for attaining temporary and relatively superficial release.
All men (and women) with a Masculine sexual essence contemplate death or release in one form or another.