It is perhaps one of the most painful experiences you can go through in life. What am I talking about? Well, breaking up during the festive season, with so much of love all around you this can be a tough patch to undergo. What with that family dinner around the corner where everyone sits with his or her respective spouses and gossips while the turkey is being carved. It becomes worse if you are not visiting your family; friends tend to ignore your new status and can say some harsh things without even meaning to. .
How do you deal with this? The answer lies in planning. There are two types of planning that you need to make before facing the party season ahead. Firstly, there is the mental planning. You need to take a decision of whether you are going to the parties and then take a call on how you will answer questions even the highly intrusive ones. Shield yourself and your mind, this is a time to enjoy and don't let the past get in the way. Prepare a few standard answers that will help you with the embarrassing queries. Here, having a sense of humour will be of immense help. .
I have a friend who once had a breakup the week before Christmas. When he attended the Christmas party at our house another one of my friends asked him where his mate was, the answer was priceless, "well, after breaking my heart she is taking a break in the Bahamas". There was an awkward silence for awhile and then everyone gave him supportive nods with thumbs-ups. You would be happy to know that, that evening he met someone who he is now happily married to. His love-find claims that she was completely bowled over by his sensitivity. With a smart answer ready for the expected question both the situation and the party, were rescued from total disaster. .
The second technique of tackling the situation is the external one and works best at family parties. Always inform your host beforehand of your status and be honest about the way you feel.