How does this story explore the contrast between appearance and reality? Would you argue that Mrs. Dickinson is a good or destructive mother? .
Appearance and reality are two very different things. One can appear perfect when they are truly the opposite. The story Tears, Idle Tears explores the contrast between appearance and reality through Mrs. Dickinson's and Frederick's appearances and actions. Through their public dealings and fashion they would appear to be a happily adjusted family. To Mrs. Dickinson appearance is most important, and the reader becomes aware of this in her portrayal of herself. Frederick's clothing may appear seamless but on the inside he is nothing but a very bewildered child. Mrs. Dickinson is a destructive mother, as she would rather hide her son's emotions than deal with them. .
Mrs. Dickinson is a woman who prides herself on appearance. The thoughts of others are very important to her, more essential than what is actually true. She is describes as a "gallant-looking, correct woman" and loves that people view her this way. Mrs. Dickinson does not want to be seen in the park with a "great blubbering boy belonging to her" as this would damage her splendid reputation. She views the whole scene as "disgraceful", and punishes Frederick because of it. Even when her husband had died, she was able to hold it together, until she was with Frederick. The reality if the situation is that inside Mrs. Dickinson is more disturbed than she would ever admit Frederick. People around her do not see the troubled side; they see Mrs. Dickinson as a good-tempered young woman with great control. Appearances can be very deceiving, as they do not always reflect reality. In Mrs. Dickinson's case they reflect only a person that she would like people to see. .
Frederick is not as he appears to people either. Mrs. Dickinson would like to be able to present him as a charming and proper young boy. That is what she pretends he is, the crying is hidden from the public.