I started talking to this girl named Alexis at the beginning of the school year. I was very attracted to her then and I still feel somewhat of a connection with her whenever I"m around her. She made me happy and I made her happy. I just couldn't understand why it is she couldn't or should I say wouldn't open up to me. I thought that I was doing the right thing by asking her 20 questions and demanding answers from her. Ultimately because of this issue we stopped dating and I never understood why she wouldn't open up to me. After reading the book, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray, I have been brought to the understanding that women don't communicate the same way men do. To try to demand answers from a woman is one of the worse things I could do. I should have tried to increase the comfort zone between us by just requesting her to listen and work from there.
Personal Recommendation.
One of the most important ideas the opposite sex should listen to in this book is that men and women speak in different languages. This important because to understand that men and women speak different languages makes communication, which is one of the greatest if not the greatest element of a relationship, much more clear. Understanding the language of a woman will also help to make her comfortable and happy around a man because he will know how to react to the things that she says. Another idea the opposite sex should listen to in this book is how to communicate difficult feelings. This idea is also very important for a man to understand because a lot of the time a woman will jump to conclusions about the way a man feels simply because he doesn't get his point across clearly. .
One of the most important ideas for women to listen to in this book is that men and women speak different languages. Often women don't understand why men react to the things that they say, the way they do. By reading the chapter they will have a larger perspective on how to communicate more effectively to the opposite sex.