Parent Child Psychology

Freud discouraged parents from over-supervising their children through the use of rewards and punishments. Freud did not develop his theory by basing his theoretical principles on empirical evidence, but rather claimed that his theory and its parts needed no empirical testing. Freud's psychological beliefs were essentially based on theoretical subjective speculation.
             Adler did agree with Freud on some major issues relating to the parenting of children and the long term effects of improper or inefficient child rearing. He identified two parental styles that he argued will cause almost certain problems in adulthood. The first was pampering, referring to a parent overprotecting a child, giving him too much attention, and sheltering him from the negative realities of life. As this child grows older, he will be ill equipped to deal with these realities, may doubt his own abilities or decision making skills, and may seek out others to replace the safety he once enjoyed as a child. On the other extreme is what Adler called neglect. A neglected child is one who is not protected at all from the world and is forced to face life's struggles alone. This child may grow up to fear the world, have a strong sense of mistrust for others and she may have a difficult time forming intimate relationships. The best approach, according to this theory, is to protect children form the evils of the world but not shelter them from it. In more practical terms, it means allowing them to hear or see the negative aspects of the world while still feeling the safety of parental influence. In other words, don't immediately go to the school principal if your child is getting bullied, but rather teach your child how to respond or take care of herself at school. Adler believed that the order in which you are born to a family inherently affects your personality. .
             1. First born children who later have younger siblings may have it the worst.