A relationship between a man and a woman can last long when they both can reach the integrity between love and sexual pleasure. Lady Chatterley's Lover, by D.H. Lawrence is an amazingly well-crafted piece of fiction. The fabric of this work is carefully weaved; everything from the characterization, sexual scenes and settings to the vocabulary are chosen with care to convey the author's vision about the harmony of love and sensuality. It would seem that Lawrence felt there is a definite division between the intellectual and the sensual. A person could only be on one side of that; making the choice to embrace one or the other. Lawrence perpetuated the idea that people should embrace the sensualities of life. With the subtle way of using language, many sexual scenes in Lawrence's novel are far from what is called pornography. Through sexual adventure in Connie's affairs, D.H Lawrence covered his novel with the human being desire theme which is the hunting for the harmony of mind and body. .
Before getting married, Connie can be satisfied easily by the communication with others young fellows. In order to satisfy her mind which is the need to communicate, Connie used sex as a tool to trade for it. At this stage of her life, in Connie's perspective, the need to communication is more priority than anything else. Lawrence write, "Women had always known there was something better, something higher" (Lady Chatterley's Lover 5). The talk with these young fellows about many academic subjects frees her mind. However, these young fellows "with lusty and splendid-throated" do not only want to talk but also to have sex. Connie, in order to keep this connection, she uses sex as a tool to trade for talk while still keeping her inner free. "A woman could take a man without really giving herself away. Certainly she could take him without giving herself into his power. Rather she could use this sex thing to have power over him.