This shows that Hector loves his brother and shows mercy to him: when instead of seeking revenge for Paris's carelessness for the trouble he caused, Hector is ready to correct his mistakes standing side by side with him at the battlefield. Philates is also shown, when Hector rejects Helen's offer to sit with her and talk, I see Hector's profound feeling of loyalty: he rejects her offer and he prefers to go visit his wife Andromache and his infant son maybe for the last time. "Don't make me sit, Helen, though you love me. You won't persuade me. Already my spirit urges me to defend the Trojans, who want me back among them. But you rose this man to get going by himself so that he overtakes me while I am still in the city. Now I am going to go to my house to see the servants and my dear wife and my little baby. For I do not know if I will again return, or whether the gods will kill me at the hands of the Achaeans." (Book 6, page 171, lines 360-369.
Like Achilles, Hector in all his actions is guided by a military honor, however Achilles appreciate it for its own sake whereas Hector is conscious that he is responsible to his people, whose interests he must defend. Compared to any other Achean commander, Hector faithfully battles in Troy without leaving the walls of his country unprotected. In addition Hector shows profound, true love for his wife and child. Homer illustrates him as a very delicate family-man. However despite the fact that Hector adores his family, he never loses the feeling of obligation to Troy. In my opinion this is when Hector strongly demonstrates his philates to Trojans. "My darling Andromache, I beg you, don't grieve too much for me in your heart. No man will cast me into the house of Hades beyond my fate. I don't think that any man can escape his fate, neither a coward nor a brave man, when once he is born. Go home now and busy yourself with your own tasks, the loom and the distaff, and urge your attendants to do their work.