It is the infants' realisation that a mother does not depend on the infant for survival that develops a tension. The resolution to this tension is far different between the sexes and this is where drastically different personalities develop among the sexes. Mothers have an already 'internalised sense of gender,' thus; subconsciously mothers push their sons away in ways they wouldn't their daughters. Due to this early shift in 'psychoanalytical dynamics' girls begin to develop a greater sense of empathy and a less developed sense of ego boundaries (cited in How Do We Learn Gender, pp. 137-132). This theory can be supported by 80% of survey participants stating that their mother was their primary caregiver (see figure .
2). In continues to be supported with 66.67% of females identifying they feel a greater connection with their mothers. Where as, only 18.18% of males, admitted to feeling a greater connections with their mothers (See figure 3). .
With mothers being so crucial to the development of children, males are still encouraged to adhere to a gender script but they are left to find other ways to develop a masculine identity that doesn't involve their mothers. A masculine identity is seen as something that is strong, assertive and powerful (Blakemore, 2008). Chodorow suggests that a 'problematic dynamic' is proposed to a boy as they have to work out how to develop a relationship with a prominent male figure, usually the father, as well as cut the identification with their mothers. Thus, from this the masculine identity develops with a strong disregard for a connection with others as well as far greater ego boundaries then to females. Masculinity is developed from the rejection of what is considered feminine through the disconnection with male's mothers. This can be associated with Raewyn Connell's theory on the construction of masculinity and how it developed through active bodies.