In the beginning, my husband and I dated for three years. It was fun and we really enjoyed every moment of it. The more we knew each other the deeper we fell in love. We decided to get married and it's been three years from now and we're still happily married. We also have a smart and beautiful daughter that God has blessed us with. Having a family of your own, is not as easy as it sounds. We have our ups and downs, our disagreements and downfalls but at the end of everyday we managed and still managing to make things better. It can be tough and very difficult at times but we always come up with a solution to solve our problems and believe it or not what my little family and I go through draws us closer to one another. .
According to the textbook "Looking Out Looking In" by Adler & Proctor, in chapter eight, Knapp talks about the different stages of relationships. One of the stages in relationships he states is differentiating stages. Differentiating stages "is the point where the "we" orientation that has developed shifts, and more "me" messages begin to occur"(Adler & Proctor, 2014, p. 259). The differentiating stage defines the relationship my husband and I hold. We enjoy everything we do and at times we may have our differences but it doesn't mean that our relationship aren't on good terms . Sometimes, my husband won't agree with what I would agree with and at times I won't agree with what my husband would agree with. For example, my husband likes to go out and have fun every weekend. I on the other hand don't like it because I feel like it's stupid and irresponsible. In my opinion, once you're given the title of being married with kids it's not okay to do those kind of stuff especially if you just go and have fun every weekend. For myself, I like to relax and just be at home. I can go out and have fun every once in a while but not every weekend due to the fact that we have a daughter and responsibilities to take care of.