Today parents often have great difficulty communicating with their teenage children, and some miscommunication may typically occur between a mother and an adolescent daughter. The daughter is at an age where the last person she wants to grow up to be like is her mother. Many women have a natural instinct to mistrust; we are unable to confide in other women, especially our mothers. It seems as if we would rather keep all our feelings inside until we explode. Using the metaphor of isolated rooms, Mirikitani illustrates the estrangement between mothers and daughters. Each individual seems to be locked in a room where secrets and thoughts are kept. The only one that can enter and explore the room is the owner.
The author uses the metaphor of "rooms" to illustrate the isolation of mothers and daughters from each other. The rooms represent each individual's way of looking at life. The mother describes her own room, her own mother's room, an empty room, a room with an open window and her daughter's room. The speaker's room is full of hope, dreams and memories that are both compelling and sad. The speaker remembers the lies her mother told her, lies that kept her locked in that "empty room". The speaker recalls her mother saying "that our [women's] possibilities must be compressed / to the size of pearls, displayed only as / passive chokers, charms around our necks" (27- 29). The words "passive chokers" and "compressed to the size of pearls" are key words. Something or someone passive lacks energy or will. The choker symbolizes restrain and control. A choker is wore around the neck and even though it's only for display, it is also a garment that can be use to control someone's actions. At any time the choker can be pulled to hold someone back or prevent him or her from acting on his or her own. If person's possibilities are being "compressed to the size of pearls," this implies that they don't have many choices because some of the chances that they have are being cut down or reduced from 100 to 1.