Author, Joan Didion, believes that it's possible for people to anticipate the death of someone close to them. She states it as, "We anticipate (we know) that someone close to us could die, but we do not look beyond the few days or weeks that immediately follow such on imagined death." (Didon, 929) We know that someone could die in a matter of days, but we do not look beyond the future, that it could take a toll on us. .
People tend to look back and think about the times that they had with that love one and sometimes that can overwhelm a person. Depending on the person, the end result of someone dying, which is close to us, could have a negative impact. But on the other hand death could have a positive outlook now, and in the future, due to a person's beliefs. But we all know that death happened and life changes fast. People die daily, a person's grieving process different from the situation and death itself.
The grieving process sometimes can be negative. Didion says, "We do not expect this shock to be obliterative, dislocating to both body and mind" (Didion, 929). She says things because of her personal experiences. Her daughter that was in ICU, and her husband suddenly died at the dinner table because of a heart attack (Kakutani). When a person loses one or more family members in the same week, the result could be more tragic (The Normal). Multiple losses cause more sorrow.
Death affects those closest to the person who died. People are going to be more affected by family members dying than someone they barely know. Care giving is caring for a love one until he or she dies. But often times, they spend most of their time caring for that love one that eventually dies may be haunted in their mind or in their way of thinking. After spending so much time caring for that lost love one, people often do not know how to spend or use their free time (The Normal). The closer you are to someone, the more their death will cause you grief.