It would be very difficult to make one another happy if we kept all our feelings and thoughts inside. We also are not selfish with one another. In order to keep each other happy, we have to realize that we both have needs. All of our belongings, for the most part, now belong to both of us. His money is my money, just as my car is his too, and so on. Selfishness alone can ruin a marriage. .
One other very important item in a marriage is being able to compromise. If a couple cannot compromise about simple things from the beginning, their relationship is already in danger. From simple choices, such as deciding where to eat, to important choices such as how many children they want to have, compromise is vital to a marriage. It can make a marriage hell or it can make the couple feel like they could not ask for more. From the beginning to end, compromise is truly a key to happiness for a couple. .
The last, and most important, requirement that I feel makes a marriage successful is having unconditional love for one another. To me, unconditional love is putting all the materialistic things aside and looking at this person for who they truly are. It is forgetting what the person looks like, what money they have, where they are from and so on. I can honestly say that I wake up everyday without the worry of money, my appearance, or the world's approval, because I have my husband who would be there for me without it all. If the entire world turned on me, I know that my husband would still be there for me through it all. To me, that is true love. He loves me unconditionally just the way I am.
As you can see, I feel quite strongly that a successful marriage is very possible. It seems to me that people just make it harder than it truly is by being selfish, shallow, and unappreciative. Divorce is not like breaking up with your boyfriend of two months over some silly fight you just had. It is something that I feel should be the last and final resort to a marriage that is terribly failing do to unsolvable issues.